The plethora of self-help books and success tomes demonstrate that the topic of success and how to achieve it is something that most of us are intensely interested in. However you happen to define success, chances are, you would like to find ways to increase it.
I was having a conversation a few
days ago with my mother, and we were talking about goals and achieving them. Well,
she mentioned this young girl from Thailand, who came from very difficult
circumstances, but ended up with a scholarship to study abroad, and fulfill her
dream of making a difference in the field of education, by being asked to
participate in creating new education policy for her country. This is an
impressive achievement, and of course, one tends to ask the question – what lessons
can we learn from this? What did she do to achieve her success?
Well, since I haven’t met or spoken
to this girl, I can only make vague conjectures. And this post isn’t about how
to achieve what she did, or something similar. Instead, I am wondering if it is
possible to reverse-engineer big goals? Sure, you can read any one of hundreds
of books on how to become more successful, and they are mostly filled with very
useful advice, such as increasing your skills, learning to speak in public, or
learning how to be a more effective leader. Reading such books can help to
become generally more successful, but would they help in achieving specific
success?
This is a topic I think about a
lot, as I am trying to pursue certain specific goals. And despite reading a lot
about them, and acquiring a wide range of advice, I feel stymied and can show
somewhat uncertain and dubious progress. This is also the case for some other
people I know. On the other hand, plenty of people are obviously successful in
many endeavors, so is it that my execution is simply poor? It is entirely possible
of course. But I also think maybe there is something else to it as well.
Some years ago I read The Click Moment by Franz Johansson, and
it made this point that even those who achieved incredible, once-in-a-lifetime
success were many times unable to repeat their feats. That sometimes something
just clicks, and we can't know in advance what that will be. His point was,
just do a lot of stuff, keep throwing spaghetti at the wall, and something will
stick. Take a lot of action, make a lot of art or start a lot of businesses,
and you have a greater chance of one of those projects clicking.
For a while I was really obsessed
by this idea. That we have no control over what will be successful. You have to
admit that it's a more appealing idea than work for 10,000 hours, on one
specific skill or set of skills, and then you will become a genius. If you
abandon your skill, or need to change careers or whatever, too bad, you simply
need to start over. Its compelling to think that there is no way to guarantee
success, so it's not on me if I fail, it's not because I failed to put in my
10,000 hours. However, even though we cannot guarantee success with a formula,
there is no doubt that the more you practice, the sharper your skill set, the
more you bring to the table with each new project or opportunity that you are a
part of. You make it that much easier for yourself to be successful. That's
why, while I still appreciate the message of Johansson's book, I wouldn’t set
too much store by it.
In my own career so far, with all
its twists and turns and lack of meteoric upward mobility, one thing I have
seen is that the combination of factors works well. You try to get good at
whatever you are working on, and yet you don’t assume that skill alone will
automatically guarantee the reception of your work. Some of the most amazing
work-related experiences I have had, arose not from the fact that I was the best
person for the job, but because a confluence of factors happened to move me
towards a particular opportunity. While working on transitional justice and traditional
human rights issues, I happened to help out a stressed-out and overworked
colleague on a project she was involved with, in an area completely new to me. I
read up on it, and helped her out with a tiny sliver of the project. That led
to me being included in the project, getting to undertake the bulk of the
research for it, and even write a small portion. I gained expertise in an
entirely new field. This isn’t something that I could have predicted, or
reverse-engineered. Sure, you might think (cynically) that that was my ulterior
motive in offering help to my colleague in the first place. Although it wasn’t,
there have been previous instances where I offered to help and either wasn’t taken
up on the offer, or that assistance didn’t lead to anything further. In fact,
in that same organization, this happened a few times. So I couldn’t really have
predicted this.
This pattern has played out in many
of the items in my CV that I am most proud of. Conferences that I attended,
internships, published papers – most of this happened as a result of a chance
comment, or a fleeting idea that I acted on. None of them were the result of a
concerted plan of action, goals that I wrote down, or achievements that I actively
pursued.
What lesson can you draw from this?
The lesson that I learn from this is that it isn’t easy to pick a goal and
figure out exactly how you will get there. Sure, if your goal involves you and
no one else, that might be possible – such as deciding to write a book or run a
marathon. You figure out the steps involved, and then execute them till you
have completed the book or crossed the finish line. But where other people are
involved, I don’t think it is as easy to predict outcomes. We can do our best
to set goals, make plans and carry them out, but we don’t know how it will
truly play out.
So if you're reading this, and
hoping for a takeaway, what should you do? I suggest that you continue to make
plans and take action as usual. However, don’t be completely wedded to those
specific outcomes. Be willing to let the universe take you in a different
direction. Be open to possibilities. And encourage those possibilities by
trying new things, doing more projects, reaching out to more people. If you get
a whimsical idea, follow it up if it can be done in a reasonable time frame. Talk
about your dreams with someone who is the last person you ever thought could
help you achieve them; you never know, they might be just the one with the
right contacts. Remember that the world is complex and beautiful, and it
continues to surprise us every single day with its wealth of possibility and
richness. Watch out for serendipity, and you never know what might happen!
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